Eau de Pungent

I was nearly doing a walk-a-jog, this afternoon, not because i was late but because i wanted to scramble from the heat and get indoors asap. It was scorching hot and i was going to catch a movie. I hopped into the train as soon as it came. There were many school students among the daily afternoon 'crowd'.
A lady in pink scurried to the seat beside me as though she was paranoid that i was going to occupy the seat beside mine too. After a few seconds, i realized that an empowering odor came from her. Yes, it was the infamous, B.O.( body odour). I glanced to my side and saw a few drops on sweat on her neck, and whats worse, her hair had a bad stench too. When she turned to look at me, i raised my eyes, rubbed my nose and looked away. That was supposed to send the 'you stink and it irks me!' signal.
The students in uniform too had a considerable wave of B.O spreading all over. Whats more, after i alighted from the train, another lady in front of me in the escalator, gave me another pungent hazard. I suddenly realized that this is actually a common sight or smell i should say, in our everyday journeys in public transport.
Its ironical that some people would out rightly close their nostrils when seated beside a person of a different colour, but in true fact, it is them who bear the excruciating odour. Its even crystal clear at times that these people don't shower in the morning, looking disarrayed , not forgetting the stinky yawns you get when u sit beside them.
A bold taxi driver once told me that, he hesitates to take Indians in a cab because they have this coconut smell on them. I thought that was a blatant racist remark and told him off. I told him that Indians smell like that due to the products they use, not due to their personal hygiene or the food they eat, like you people. I lodged a complain to the taxi company and received an apology. Yeah, that was all i got.
Well, its still apparent that toilet rolls don't ever meliorate.

Emotions VS Rationality

Whenever we need to make a decision, it comes down to whether we are using our heads or our hearts to make a decision. At times though we are given the benefit to use both. Decision -making is said to be a very crucial aspect in every one's lives. Many a time we are put in a compromising situation where there is no one single best solution. In times like this, are rational or radical decisions preferred? Not to forget about our emotions which can highly influence our decisions.

As what a love poet might preach, using your heart to make a decision is usually more applicable to matters of the heart. However is our rationality pushed to the backseat in this decision-making? Using our emotions to make a decision is these matters are much favoured by many of us as it saves the trouble of heartaches. These decisions may not always be the rational decisions though. I think that in years to come, these heart induced decisions may not be liable anymore, but we would choose not to acknowledge it as this what we would want to believe in. This may be applicable to other decision-making too.

For example, we see a nice pair of shoes which we adore, but the price is sky-rocketing and so is beyond our budget, what do you do?.

1. You cant stop thinking about it so you decide to buy it( heart-induced decisions)?
2. Or you realize that you need the cash for something that you need, not want and so decide to go against your temptation( rational decisions)?
   

Well, this dilemma sure is common among many of us, but i guess different people make different choices.

Using our emotions would make it seem easier to make up our minds, but making a reasoning decision would be more sensible. Sometimes, decisions making using our hearts may not have been made with a clear or sound state of mind and would probably lead to serious repercussions full of regret. This reminds me one of Jane Austen's novel ,' Sense And Sensibility'.

I think that making a decision according to the situation, using both our hearts and heads, but mainly the latter would be the ideal.However i don't think i practise what i preach sometimes, so lets see......

Ghosts Of The Past

My math teacher once told me," If you don't get your foundations right, they will come back to haunt you." I found that irritatingly true. In the years that followed, i realized that numerals were not the only thing that appeared from the past, people too.

Many of the people from my past have actually become a bleak memory or sometimes it would seem like it was probably a small fragment of my wildest imagination. I can safely say that i am not holding on to the past and why, its the best thing to do. Many problems occur because people still keep holding back or even become judgemental because of the other person's past. But what happens when, we are no longer holding to our past but instead holding on the other person's?

As what someone i know would say, "its all in the past". Absolutely true, but how game are we to actually put it behind us? Sometimes we find ourselves even finding our way to it, not that it just comes by our way. Why do we purposely want to get into the emotional mess?

Being highly opinionated towards the other person because of the past is in fact very selfish of us. I think that the true challenge of being in a non-judgemental relationship with anyone is to actually get over the past, the other person's.

Ghosts like apparitions do not stay for very long, it disappears as soon as we get our thoughts straight. Ah yes, the Goddess is not a big believer in ghosts.

Domestic Helpers- Help or Hinderance

More than often we see a domestic helper, or otherwise called a maid(in Singaporean terminology) attached to most households. These households usually comprise of young kids with hardworking parents led by the blind pursuit of earning money. In order to reap what you sow in this economical climate, both the spouses are put in the steamrollers to work to provide a luxurious lifestyle for the family.In Singapore, a luxurious lifestyle is considered as the ' cream de la cream' while the comfortable lifestyle concept has dropped to its second place, 'cream of the crop'.

Getting back to the issue, these domestic helpers are supposedly a great help to us. Why then do we hear of cases of ungrateful maids all the time? Is it because since they are humans, they have needs too, or because most of the time they happen to be young, so they are just exploring their options? They do not have to sell their souls to the employer, but sincerity and honesty is much expected, more than if they know how to sweep or wash.

By doing the household chores, they are indeed a great help to us, but what about when they get into trouble, or i should say give us trouble, when they commit murders, run away from the employers or secretly get pregnant and indulge in self inducing abortions. Have their moral ethics gone into hiding?

It is a common sight to see hundreds of maids flocking in Lucky Plaza on Sundays, in town with their Casanova-wannabe boyfriends. We usually are quick to brand these genre of maids as the' havoc ones'. However the ones i know who had indulged in brainless offenses like the ones mentioned above are NOT part of the Lucky Plaza genre. The 'havoc ones' just appear to be such and are just having fun, but sure do seem extremely bold though.

Every human being has the freedom to make a choice, even kids(especially the ones studying in PAP kindergarten) know this. My 4 year old cousin repeats the line,'freedom for life' every time there's any talk about National Day, since last Wednesday of course. So its up to these helpers to make a choice, even if it comes to having a boyfriend. Most of us have been or is with someone
special, but why does it sound wrong when it comes to maids? Is it because they should be thought of as being inferior to us? We are all people with raging hormones, regardless of where we are from, so why the double standards?

From another point of view, they are here solely to earn a living, not have fun. They are in fact, are protected more strongly by the Government than by their employers( especially the Filipinos). What more do they want? They tend to take advantage of the trust gained by their employers and cross the line. I am not totally ignoring the fact that there are cases whereby the employers ill-treat some maids, but in such cases the employers are severely dealt with. However, if the maids commit any offence, the employers bear half the brunt too by simply stating that the maids were the employers' responsibility anyway.

Well, i guess this debate could go on and on, and this is what the Goddess would call an hypothetical situation. I for one, do not have a maid and am happy about it( you are NOT my maid, mum!) I usually have a impartial relationship with all the maids i know, except for my cousin's childhood maid( Aunt Emily is the best!). I do not see the necessity to strike a conversation, and i actually feel uneasy around them( like when they want to wash your plates for you).

Revelling Goddess is an independent-urban female and don't see the need to be waited on, not if its from a certain someone though, haha.

Clothes- Sexless Cloth And Linen Without Flesh

I have decided to give this blog a headstart with what every woman loves best after diamonds, clothes. Clothes in this revolutionary era is not only considered as linen to help keep us warm and cover our utmost precicous jewels but also in helping most of us feel good about ourselves. Make-up is assumed to revitalise a woman's confidence but i think clothes aid in the process too. Our male counterparts too depend on clothes to make them feel good about themselves.

'Do we look good in that or does it look good on us?' was what i was musing about for a few weeks, ok truthfully, a long time ago. Lets say, for example, we spot a racer- back tee in turquoise which we think would look good in it but is discouraged from a special someone, because of its colour,whose words u take more seriously than a shrink's. However, you trust your own instincts and eventually get the tee only to realize that you look amazing in it, which the special someone agrees a thousand times over. What does this show?

I think clothes by itself are sexless cloth and linen without flesh. We ignite it to life by wearing it. We see runway models being stick thin catwalking for fashion giants like Gucci and Faragamo. Lets face it, do the clothes really look flattering on them?. The way we see it on them is the way we would see it on a coat hanger. Thus, we are looking at them with the same dilemma, 'would it look nice on me?'. Alternatively, we are also made to appreciate the fashion labels without any strings attached to them, admire them for what they are, not because they fit perfectly on someone. Alas,this is what i guess the fashionistas strive to aim.

The notion of clothes being unsensual without being worn by someone, was even adopted by Thomas Hardy, though in which book i would cease to mention. I think this notion from someone who lived in the romanticist period, which still makes people ponder about it even till now, is a magnificient writer indeed.

Clothes- a part of me, on me.